The first priority, when any problem arises in a marriage, is to commit. The couple's relationship and family are the most important thing. Put aside differences and acknowledge the sacredness of the love that exists. Remember all the positive reasons the marriage worked in the first place and can still work in the future. Choose to love. When marriage is viewed as something sacred, something consecrated, it will be easier for the relationship to grow deeper and stronger.
Elder Lynn G. Robbins taught members of the LDS Church this important principle in an article in the Ensign magazine, a publication of the LDS Church, titled "Agency and Love in Marriage." He said , "Too many believe that love is a condition, a feeling that involves 100 percent of the heart, something that happens to you. They disassociate love from the mind and, therefore, from agency. In commanding us to love, the Lord refers to something much deeper than romance — a love that is the most profound form of loyalty. He is teaching us that love is something more than feelings of the heart; it is also a covenant we keep with soul and mind."
Every marriage is made of two different people coming together, two unique halves trying to make a whole. There will always be a need to compromise. Decide together the best way to talk to and teach children, to respect the differences, to handle family traditions and, most importantly, problems that arise.
Elder Robbins said in the same Ensign article, "Because love is as much a verb as it is a noun, the phrase “I love you” is much more a promise of behavior and commitment than it is an expression of feeling."
In a world constantly eager for the easy way out, any difference can be a reason for divorce. Husbands and wives that band together despite their religious differences and honor the love and attributes that brought them together in the first place can stay strong and defeat the odds.
Every single marriage has problems, even the ones you see as "perfect". There are going to be times when divorce seems like the path to go down and like I mentioned before, there are needs for those times, but if you and your spouse can make it work - DO it! Do what it takes - separate for a while, spend some time along, spend some time together without the kids, talk to a counselor, talk to each other, remember what made you fall in love in the first place, get help, do service for your spouse, read some marriage books, there are so many things to help you out there - Stay strong and defeat the odds!
